The elusive goal that humans seek.
Here’s the shock – there is no ‘happiness’ out there.
No, it doesn’t exist.
Any ‘Happiness’ on sale at Amazon for next day Prime delivery?
Nope.
Search as you may – in various towns, cities, countries, relationships, people, cars, shoes, designer ‘stuff’, jobs, careers… you won’t find it.
Trust me – I’ve done the search for you – there’s no ‘happiness’ out there.
So it brings us back to the cliché statement – as described by Poppy in the Trolls movie (for those of you with kids)::
‘It’s within you. It’s within all of us’.
Yet you only have to look around and see that it doesn’t look like it’s in all of us at all.
It’s such an age-old saying – money doesn’t bring you happiness blah blah blah.
So what does?
In my experience, it’s this:
Knowing your talent – your ‘genius’ as I call it – then following your intuition, being authentically YOU without fear of needing to be anyone you’re not, and thereafter serving humanity with your ‘gift’.
When you’re on your true path – not the one society led you down so that the country/world has enough cogs in wheels – no, I’m talking about your TRUE blissful path – it brings joy, fulfilment and pure happiness in the every day, opposed to fleeting excitement caused by an external event ‘happening’.
But what if, right now, it seems like an impossible dream? To achieve what you really want to achieve. To follow your true path. What if circumstances make it hard right now? What if you feel the time isn’t right?
If this is you, I know. I relate. – I used to be you. 20+ years in a corporate career, senior financial positions, misery-in-the-every-day, a ‘prison’. Except the prison wasn’t the corporate rules – the prison was my own mind.
So I know how you feel.
So in the meantime my advice to you my friend is that you can still start within the next hour.
First, start to focus on what makes you feel good – in every moment. Don’t get pulled into the negative, the worst-case scenario thinking, the what ifs and the lack and limitation.
Because the thing is – what you focus on increases… and magnifies… and brings more of the same.
Feel profoundly grateful for what you currently have; if you find this hard, imagine some of these things weren’t there.. then bring them back.
Then build a vision of the life you really want to live. Create an image in your mind that would indicate you had achieved that dream. Spend more time thinking of that… and watch how ideas start to flow into your mind.
This is how I started when I was single, living in an apartment in London and in a corporate job, no kids yet at the age of 40 i.e. in a life that wasn’t the one I wanted at all (it wasn’t that long ago – merely 15 years).
This newsletter is intended to inspire you, to prod your mind into contemplating what you really want; so it isn’t about me. However I do share so that you see what’s possible when you focus on what you want instead of what you don’t…
For 20 years I created the same prison; different circumstances, different companies, different people – same result. Lack of pure happiness in the every day.
Then in 3 years of renewed focus I built a global business that seemed impossible only a few years before, the high-profile clients, the $million home, the Range Rover, having my own two superstar children, travelling every school holiday to LA, NY, Europe, Maldives, working only during school hours so that I can be fully present for my children.
It sounds too good to be true – but I promise you – it isn’t anywhere near as difficult as your mind tells you it is.
Happiness is the real goal for everyone – not the money or the business. They just come. It’s that feeling of creating the life you really want according to you.
That my friend is real joy.
And YOU can do it too.. if you really want to….
Guinevere
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